Will gals take guys for granted if the guys continuously treating them well?
I don't know how to ans the question myself even i have been thru so much.
as far as i know... i seen a lot of cases where most of my friends' gf starting to take things for granted as the years goes by.

Asking for this and that.... being very quiet and sian... waiting to get surprises and entertainment. i dont know abt mine. so far so gd? i feared somehow...

well... now at camp... got nights off but i dun wish to go out... ,zhu is working night shift... blar... yesterday sleep at 1am becos using the office phone and chat wif her... i can say its a good chat...cuz... theres no quarrels..

complaining that after a few gd and sweet days den came a sudden quarrelling... who loves to quarrel? but wats a good and stable relationship without quarrels? Yes quarrels can be avoided provided one have to give way... but i dun think in a long relationship, tats possible... oh come on... my dad and mum quarrels too... of cos not fights...

quarrels occured when misunderstand stepped into the picture... Why is there misunderstand? Cuz theres no good communication... i must be honest me and her dosent have good communication. I'm very confident to say.. most of the time the fault isnt lie on me...

Why? cos i dont keep secrets... i dont hide anything behind her... i say wat i feel... but im not straightforward kind tat will hurt ppl.. unless im being forced to do so... the problems with me is im bad tempered... its inherit from my dad....

i can say my temper is as bad as him... i wont hide anger inside me... anything i dun like i will spit out like saliva...

i know why we always quarrel.. she have difficulty expressing herself.. and i have to guess what she feels.. its eating my patient and mentally. Its not easy to be a good and understanding bf IF the gal dont express herself well...

Does it have to make a guy to take note every single movements, facial expressions, eye contacts or any other elements tat can b appearing at the gal's features and body, to understand the gal?

How is it going to be possible? i rather she complain her problems to me... complain and complain... nag and nag den she kip quiet and i have to notice every single things she do...

Sometimes i go out wif her... she was looking and staring at something... i ask her... are you thinking abt " blar blar blar"

She was amazed on how i know. Of cos i know... but tats on rare occasion that i analayze correctly... cos gals are so unpredictable...

Sometimes treating them too nice... they will mark tat standard to "there". If u ever lower the standards or treat them a little colder than tat time.. she will say u changed.

so.... how hard is it to make a gd bf? If your bf is poor... dun ever tok abt hw rich your friends bfs are... it will just spark another quarrel... yes saying dosent mean anything... wat if a guy say... wa my friend gf's figure damn gd... i can say, i onli say onli ma... but wat will the gal think? exactly isnt it?

step urself into guy shoes sometimes... dun take guys for granted. showing sense of gentleman? alright... lets tok the basic... sending a gal home... is a gesture... that a guy shd make sure the gal reach home safety.

but if the guy stay in tampines... the gal stay in tuas? isnt it a bit tiring for the guy to do that everytime? yes the gal might say she dun wan to... cos its tiring for the guy... some guys dun like to hear that. instead... the gal shd just appreciate the time where the guy sendin her home period. Remember when the guy want to send the gal home, he meant he want her to be safe at home before he can comfortably go home

in this way.. the guy wont feel his effort wasted... how will the guy feel if halfway thru the journey a quarrel started...

I believe gals dont like advices from guys... why? they rather sulk and complain and complain... dun wish to change.. and stay the same and face the same old problems...

yes u complain to me... i listen... if i keep quiet... u say i nv listen your problems... not paying attention to u... if i start to give advices to give u the arrow which way to go so u wont feel pek chek... my advices are always the optimism path....

oh u dont like... so u rather me say " oh y like tat, so poor thing. sayang sayang.. dun cry..." does this solve the problem? yes gals need guys to hong... but if this goes the long way... the problems the gal facing will get worse isnt? and honging.. will get sianer and sianer.. cos the guys kip saying the same thing...

so what shd a guy do when a gal complain?

so much so many things to say... i'm working hard to save money... even in NSF... 350 a month now seems im worse than any bangaldesh workers in sg. But if i can save 200 a month, will it be possible... im going to make it happen by spending the most $150 per month...

Looking into the future...

the whole wedding package = 30k?
a new 4 room flat = 250k?
renovation = 30k?
kids expenses a year = ???
household expenses a month = 1k?
parents allowance = $300?
WIFE ALLOWANCE = $????

Im not including car and other i dun kw elements... but u see the amount of money... can u faint if u r a guy whose financial which is so tight like me?

the question marks are i reali dun kw how much...

do u guys think a joint account is essential for a married couple? do u think u still have to think u spend 100 den i must spend 100 so as to be fair, this kind of logic?

so many things to think abt.... i m actualli quite drained out after typing all this... well shd stop here...

maybe calling her later... just received a sms, maybe from her.