Just wana summarize what happened today. Same work but took 2 hours off to attend my friend wake at bukit batok. Still cant believe the fact that he actualli really left us. Seen him there motionless, i feel a great pain in my heart. A good singer and a good cook, a steady friend who never fail to bring a smile to you... Now gone... gone...

Well.. gona write something. yup can see the header? Happiness.. here i go.

Can anyone define happiness? I believe everyone's definition will be different. Some may just want to live simple and will be happy. Some may want to accomplish goals and achieve it. Some may think the day of marriage is the mark of happiness. For whatever how they define it, it is still happiness if they think it is.

Happiness comes within your heart. Happiness is really one element in life that you can't simply just show on your face. You will know it when you actually find it. It's actually a feeling that derives from your heart naturally. Its hard to explain how it actually feels.

For me, personally feel that when I feel sudden warmth in my heart whenever something happened. I think that's how happiness actually feels for me. The last time I actually feel it, is when I was walking with my dad, and it was raining. I put my arm over my dad's shoulders and cover him with umbrella.

At the moment, a sudden warmth fills my heart. It's hard to explain. For me, I guess it's the first time I ever do that action with my dad if I ever remember. Well, as I said earlier on, some may think the day of marriage is the mark of happiness. I guess in this century, not many will think this way anymore.

I do feel marriage holds a certain percentage of happiness but not 100% though. Most of the cases, couples are happy when both get married. Marriage turned soured when both parties have different perspective and unable to accept their differences.

This lead to quarrels and fights, worse come to worst, divorce comes into the picture. I must say, it’s impossible to find a perfect partner of your dreams. No matter how good a person is, there are bound to be some bad points he or she have that you can't accept. It is always good to live life without the word "perfection".

If you are given a choice, will you choose "perfection" or "happiness"? Difficult to decide? No its not. Ask yourself, can you be happy now? The real happiness is always in our heart I believe. It is masked with environments factors, situations and other disturbing elements that make you unable to see your own happiness.

I always remember this question my consulter asked me. "Why do baby cry when they are born?"

I was unable to answer. He replied. "Because they are expose to a new environment and do not know how to handle it."

I don't know whether it's true or not. But it does make sense. We faced new situations and problems everyday. Be it good or bad, I believe we handle situations differently. That's what makes all people different. When we faced problems we can't handle or cant solved, we become very depressed, stress and other negative feelings or thoughts.

That's why baby cry I believe. They do not have the ability to show their discomfort so the only thing they can do is cry. Talk about crying, it's a born skill to every humans. You don't need to learn how to cry. You only need to learn how to accept tears when it comes. It's not shameful to cry. Man can cry, why not? Crying is not gay. Crying is a release of unwanted and negative emotions that stay in your heart.

My consultant asked me another question. "Why sometimes after rain, there's rainbow?"

I replied the scientific way. But he replied, "No, sometimes after you cried, there's hope."

I have been trying to learn to look things in a more interesting way whenever possible. I believe I want to live as happy as possible. I picked up books that helped in self improvement.

However, by just reading doesn't make you a better person. Action is the word. If you haven't been happy today, ask yourself now, why are you not happy. List it all down, as many as possible. After writing it down, read it again and placed it in your drawer.

After 1 month, take it out. Read it again. Do you actually feel amused of what you wrote last month? If it is, congratulation, I believe you actually learn something. However, some may still think those problems still happen to them. I believe those people need to see a consultant as soon as possible to prevent leading oneself into a deeper depression.

Well, I find it works for me. So I decided to share with you all. For a guy, who is so pessimistic like me can overcome depression and is now leading a better and happier life. Why not you? Though I feel lonely, I feel bored at night. I always find something to do to ease the negative thoughts.

Alright some may say, being optimistic is another form of escaping from reality, I believed those people are right in certain way in the perspective of pessimism. Think about it, why do they say so? Are they afraid to face optimism? Yes they are.

They are too "comfortable" in their so called comfort zone. They could not accept anything that is totally different from their current thinking and feeling. So, excuses in interesting formats come in handy for them.

You fell out of love. You are sad. You said you did everything you can. You think you a perfect boyfriend or girlfriend. But he or she still left you or rejected you. Recently, I heard from my friend, it's very true. "You may be a perfect boyfriend in many people's eye; unfortunately, you are not the right guy for her."

Stick this to your mind; even if you are a girl, this applies to you too. There bound to be someone out there somehow somewhere. Grab any chance. Ask him/her next time, "Am I the right guy/girl for you?" Instead of telling them how much you actually love them.

I believe the she or he will not able to answer you somewhat somehow instantly. If they can instantly answer you "No", it actually means that they did question themselves this question even before you had asked them. I believe you can ask this question in a serious manner or a joking manner. The person you asked can only have three responses. Firstly, he or she will be brought into deep thoughts. Two, hesitate on how to answer you. Lastly, which no one will wish to hear, reject you immediately.

Its always be good to be optimistic in this area but not over doing it. Those who are extremely optimistic in these area ones are those who flirt most of the time. Vice versa, those who are devoted types.

How many actually find they are happy when they are with their family? I shall ask another way. How many actually think of this question? I believe most of us never really cherish the moments with our love ones and close ones.

I can feel now actually, I lost one of my friends last Saturday night. I'm kind of regretted not paying him a visit as much as I can. Now he had left me forever. Now, I can only think back those good memories we shared during our working times. I know he is listening to me up there. I want to tell him that he will be forever live in our heart and he will be missed by everyone for long.

I guess I'm getting too lengthy; I shall end here with some summary...

"Always look things in a more interesting perspective"
"Happiness derives from your heart naturally"
"Accept differences and learn from it"
"All things happen for a reason"
"Cherish your love ones"
"Cherish your life"
"Start today"
"Smile"