Let me start a small story...
Here it goes....
The father is looking down into the crib at his sleeping newborn daugther, just home from the hospital. His heart is overflowing with awe and gratitude for the beauty of her, the perfection.

The baby opens her eyes and stares straight up.The fathers den calls her name, expecting tat she will turn her head and look at him. However, her eyes dont move.

He picks up a furry little toy attached to the rail of the bassinet and shakes it, ringing the bell it contains. The baby's eyes still dont move.

His heart has begun to beat rapidly. He finds his wife in their bedroom and tells her wat just happened. "She dosent seem to respond to noise at all," he says. "It's as if she cant hear."

"Im sure shes's all right," the wife says, pulling her dressing gown around her. Together they go into the nursery.

She calls the baby name, jingles the bell, claps her hands. Then she picks up the baby, who immediately perks up, wiggling and cooing.

"God," the father says. "She's deaf."
"No shes not ok," the mother says. "I mean, its too soon to say a thing like that. Look, shes brand-new. Her eyes dont even focus yet."
"But there wasnt the slightest movement, even when you clapped as hard as you could."

The mother takes a book from the shelf. "Lets read wats in the baby book," she says. She looks up "hearing" and reads out loud: " Dont be alarmed if your newborn fails to startle at loud noises or fails to orient toward sound. The startle reflex and attention to sound often take some time to develop. Your pediatrician can test your child's hearinf neutrologically.'

"There," the mother says. "Dosent that make you feel better?"
"Not much," the father says, "It Dosent even mention the other possiblilty, that the baby is deaf. And all i know is that my baby dosent hear a thing. I've got the worst feeling about this. Maybe it's bcoz my grandfather was deaf. If that beautiful baby is deaf and its my fault, I ll never forgive myself."

"Hey, wait a minute," says the wife. " you are going off the deep end. We ll call the pediatrician first thing Monday. In the meantime, cheer up. Here, hold the baby while i fix her blanket. Its all pulled out."

The father take the baby but gives her back to his wife as soon as he can. All weekend he finds himself unable to open his briefcase and prepare for the next week's work. He follows his wife around the house, ruminating about the baby's hearing and about the way deafness would ruin her life. He imagines only the worst: no hearing, no development of language, his beautiful child cut off from the social world, locked in soundless isolation.By sunday night he has sunk into despair.

The mother leaves with a message with the pediatrician's answering service asking for an early appointment Monday. She spends the weekend doing her excercises, reading and trying to calm her husband.

The pediatrician's tests are reassuring, but the father's spirits remain low. Not untl a week later, when the babt shows her first startle, to the backfire of a passing truck, does he begin to recover and enjoy his new daughter again.

See..... This father and mother have two different ways of looking at the world. Whenever something bad happens to him->a tax audit, a maritial squabble, even a frown from his employer->he imagines the worst: bankruptcy and jail, divorce, dissimal. He is prone to depression; he has long bouts of listlessness; his health suffers(like me,LOL!) She, on the other hand, sees bad events in their least threatening light. To her, they temporary and surmountable(chim, check dictionary 1), challenges to be overcome. After a reversal, she comes back quickly, soon regaining her energy. Her health is excellent.